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Is loving
oneself selfish and loving
others good? Should I enlighten
myself first before looking out
for the enlightenment of others?
What is
better, which path should we go?
How can I be happy if I do not
love myself?
How can I love others if
I do not know how to love
myself?
Are loving my self
and loving other connected in
some way?
How can I be
happy if I do not love myself?
I am the
closest neighbor to myself, I
have secrets from myself, I feel
that I have done things wrong
and failed many people. How many
reasons do I have not to love
myself? And how many reasons do
I have to love myself?
Maybe it
helps to understand: what I do
love in another? In my personal
case loving appreciation always
develops when I see an ideal in
something/somebody. Strength,
refinement, harmony etc. stand
for external and internal
qualities. Yet, isnt that one of
those Darwinistish programs in
my mind that makes sure that I
only attracted to those with the
highest rating survival
attributes. It probably is.
So what
about unconditional love or
loving ugly people? Ugly people
may have beautiful minds, or
great hearts. Loving them
because of these opulences would
still not be unconditional love.
Yet I discovered a different angle to
the situation, a perspective that
explains a lot more to me. Love is an
energy that can only be handled when
there is a certain attitude. Basically
one has to be in a loving frame of mind
to receive love as well as to give love.
Love is a subtle energy a certain type
of chi that can be send through space
and time, yet it seems to move best at
Tai Chi Speed.
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The energy of love can be taken from the
Earth Mother through our foot chakras
and the root chakra; it can be taken
from the
Heavens through the crown
chakra and the celestial chakras above.
Love can be received from angels about
any time you ask or you can pump it
straight from the own personal god
source through the inner dimensions of
the heart. You can get love from
the planets and many different other
sources. All sources have their
different flavors of love but all the
love comes from the same source, God.
Can you exchange love with God when you
have issues with Him? (I am angry with
God because He took my loved one, etc.
He gets blamed for all kinds of stuff.)
Probably not. Can you exchange love with
humans when you have issues with them?
Not at that time.
Once I read about an
experiment in the prison system where
pets were allowed. The therapists
expressed their amazement at how
hardened violent criminals could be so
tender and kind with animals.
The explanation is that the hardened
criminals had issues with humans not
with animals. With animals they could
exchange love. In a similar fashion some
people can exchange love with the Earth
Mother easier than with the angelic
realm or with God or vice versa.
Have you ever been in a bad mood and a
friend came to cheer you up to be rudely
rejected? At that time you did not feel
it appropriate to change your mood yet.
In a similar fashion we have to ready
for love and to smile, than the positive
energies that have been send towards us
can be received.
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But what if we do not love ourselves
because we are overweight, ugly,
mediocre, procrastinating, . . . (feel
free to fill in you favorite self
blaming). Wrong idea! Love is not a
reward for being nice; it is a means of
becoming nice. Love is a nourishing
energy, the more we get, the better we
become. Love is the fertilizer for us
humans to reach our highest potential.
Even so called inanimate things start to
glow when they are saturated with love.
Loving ourselves does not mean to become
self absorbed in narcissistic hedonism,
but to nourish oneself with the energies
that will make us feel good and manifest
the best in us. Love is the drug!
Now when I look at my inner dialogue I
have to admit that not all my thoughts
are loving. It looks like I have a
lifetime of work ahead of me. The mind
is like a garden that should be tended
carefully, so that no weeds of unhealthy
thoughts with emotions may take over. In
this
garden the grow all good fertilizer
and transmute all weeds herbicide is
love. Love is the drug.
Going back to my initial question:
How can I be happy if I do not love
myself? My answer is: I dont know.
I personally can only be
happy when I am open to the nourishing
energies of my world.
How can I love others if I do not
know how to love myself? If I cannot
love myself with my flaws I will
probably stop loving the object of
adoration once the flaws are discovered.
Adoration is the willingness to see the
highest in another person. Adoration can
help manifest the highest in a person.
Yet, putting somebody on a pedestal
means closing our eyes to areas that
need nourishing.
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